It’s done! It’s here!! We are SO excited that we can hardly contain ourselves!
After months of planning, filming, and editing, our buddies at Ebb+Flow Productions have helped us create an inside look at the Emily Weddings team in action. We have looked high and low and haven’t been able to find anything like this before, which makes this even more exciting for us. Creatives, you get us, right? Doing something that hasn’t been done before makes you do a happy dance!
The inspiration for this video comes from the many stories we’ve heard about couples’ regrets over their wedding day. So much of what we hear could have been easily avoided by having an experienced, qualified wedding planning professional coordinate their dream wedding. Those same couples are the ones who told themselves, “We don’t need the added expense of a wedding planner. Let’s just do it ourselves. How hard can it be?”
So we got to thinking… If those couples could have seen what it takes to execute a wedding well (like watching the Emily Weddings team in action), would they have chosen to hire a professional planning team and not put that pressure on their family, their friends, or themselves?
You know the saying “hindsight is 20/20”? It’s not until the day is done that these couples “get it.” The lightbulb goes off. They realize what mad chaos they took on in planning and executing what they hoped would be their dream wedding. Not only were their dreams unfulfilled, they didn’t get to enjoy it. Ugh…seriously hard for us to hear! You can even find reality wedding shows about doing the wedding over because, unfortunately, this is all too common. Some also confuse the venue coordinator as a day-of coordinator (a costly mistake), which we helped clear up in another post.
We can sit and share stories upon stories with you of why you need a planner or at least a day-of coordinator, but after much thought why not just show you in a video? Emily Weddings does everything we possibly can to give you FOREsight so as to avoid the dreaded “hindsight is 20/20” statement. We care about you, your wedding day, and your memories.
We hope this video will provide that foresight into what it takes to get it all done on your wedding day. You now have a firsthand look at the set-up, the tear-down, and everything that flows in between. No bad iPhone camera footage, no spiel behind a desk of us telling you how much there is to do on a wedding day, or us just sitting and telling crazy wedding stories. You get to see a first-hand look at the Emily Weddings Team busting it and having fun the entire time! You get to watch professionals work HARD to make your day the day you’ve always dreamed of.
You will see the village it takes to truly make your wedding flawless. You will see our team climbing ladders, connecting with vendors, handling grass stains on the wedding dress (you wouldn’t believe the unpredictable dilemmas we’ve encountered — and handled with grace and efficiency). You get glimpses of the team troubleshooting, directing, sending the bride down the aisle, and finding lost family members (yup; that happens, too).
This is our pulse, our heartbeat, our passion. Please don’t regret anything. Don’t be a possible candidate for a do-over wedding show. And please don’t allow the phrase “hindsight is 20/20” to become a part of your wedding day description.
We would love to clear up any confusion regarding the roles of a venue coordinator and a day-of wedding coordinator so that you are fully informed for one of the biggest days of your life. We want to start off by saying that we LOVE working with venue coordinators. They are very much a part of your wedding vendor team, and they want to see your wedding day executed just as flawlessly as you do. With that said, the venue coordinator’s role in your wedding and a day-of coordinator’s role in your wedding are quite different.
A venue coordinator is there on your wedding day on the venue’s behalf. They want to make sure that the venue provides the venue’s contracted services – signed, sealed and delivered. They work to ensure that the food is presented correctly, that their venue is in perfect condition (no toilet paper to cling to shoes, not a dirty dish to be had), and that their staff is ready to go for your big day. All of their roles are extremely important and make a huge impact on your wedding day!
Day-of wedding coordinators are different and have more diverse roles. They take time to meet with you prior to the wedding day, sometimes as early as 4 weeks prior. They collect copies of all the contracts you have signed with your vendors to ensure that you receive all of the contracted services and items on your wedding day. They start communication with each vendor to coordinate timing for the day. For example: If you are having fresh flowers placed on your wedding cake, it is important for the baker and the florist to arrive around the same time, but definitely not before the linens have been placed. If this happens, both vendors will be standing around with nothing to do. A problem, as typically both the florist and the baker probably have several events that day and will need to be efficient with their time (running late when you have multiple cakes in a van is a no can do). Heaven forbid that a wedding professional would have to call you and stress you out with details that should not cross your mind once on that day. It is the responsibility of your day-of coordinator to field those vendor phone calls, execute a flawless plan to remedy any mishaps, and communicate with all of the other wedding vendors that those mishaps may affect. These are important logistical details that a venue coordinator typically does not handle – passing the responsibility onto yourself or a family member. It is the role of your day-of wedding coordinator to create a detailed timeline (ours have even exceeded ten pages) that starts early in the morning of your wedding day and finishes up with all of the wedding items you purchased and your gifts to be packed in the designated vehicles. A skilled and professional day-of coordinator has the ability to be extremely type A in planning your wedding timeline, and then embodies an extremely flexible, problem solving, adrenaline thriving, joyful personality as they keep things running smoothly. Timing is key, and ours is down to the second precise.
Venue coordinators and their roles are so very important. We have seen a venue coordinator focused on a computer screen monitoring the impending weather moving over the area. She was able to stay informed so that she could wait to the last possible second before having to close the sides of the reception tent. She wanted the couple to enjoy every minute of the open tent on the water before the sides had to be closed. You want a venue coordinator for that. We have seen a venue coordinator move quickly as extra guests showed up at the wedding at the last minute. She was in the back communicating with the chef for extra meals, adding place settings, and extra chairs. That kept her very busy. You want a venue coordinator for that. We have seen a venue coordinator rush to the fire alarm as the venue’s kitchen caught on fire. He worked with the fire chief to get the venue reopened quickly for the couple’s reception. You want a venue coordinator for that.
A day-of coordinator’s complete focus is YOU. Our roles are different. We have sewn a bridal gown back together after a family member stepped on it and ripped it. You want a day-of coordinator for that. We have removed red wine spilled down the back on a bride’s gown in just minutes before her announcement into the reception. You want a day-of coordinator for that. We have fixed problems like the wrong rental items being dropped off, a lost transportation company or even a lost guest, the marriage officiant not showing up on time because he stayed too late at his prior event, change of venue or day-of plans because a hurricane decided to be a guest at the wedding, a missing bouquet, wedding party attire missing, a wedding vendor in a car accident with a quick call to replace that vendor before the reception even started. You want a day-of coordinator for that. Our day-of coordinating team has driven to stores to purchase extra items before the ceremony, steam a pile of dresses, wipe chairs down after a rainstorm from the night before (we have been known to bring a leaf blower and clean up your ceremony after a stormy night), we make sure important family members haven’t stepped outside or excused themselves to the bathroom before an important event like cake cutting. You want a day-of coordinator for that. Our day-of coordinating team communicates with the photographer and emcee at the same time to make sure a lens doesn’t need to be changed before the first dance, we help pack away all of your things at the end of the night so that your family and friends aren’t doing it. (We can also clean up much quicker because of our years of experience and number of staff. This allows your family to leave much earlier than they would otherwise be able to after the wedding).You want a day-of coordinator for that. To expect your venue coordinator to carry out the roles that a day-of coordinator performs, would not be realistic given all the tasks they need to tend to on the venue’s behalf…you want a day-of coordinator for YOU. (Better yet, we recommend you involve them as a wedding planner early on in the planning process, but for now, this blog is about day-of coordinators vs venue coordinators so we will stick with that.)
You see, both the venue coordinator and the day-of coordinator are necessary and, more often than not, an extension of one huge team working together for YOUR big day. Both roles are crucial. We would even be bold enough to say that if you asked any venue coordinator in Hampton Roads if a day-of coordinator is necessary, we’re certain that they would say YES! We truly believe that Emily Weddings would be an asset to the day you have always dreamed of, and have confidence that a venue coordinator would agree. So if you want a leaf blowing, dress sewing, spill cleaning, advocate for YOU on your wedding day, consider a day-of coordinator to make sure it’s as flawless as you always pictured.
Our very own Meghan Roberson is featured on the Hampton Roads wedding blog Tidewater & Tulletoday! She discusses the history of wedding traditions and how couples are changing, modifying, altering, and adding to them in order to create a wedding that reflects their individual personalities and interests.
Also featured in the article are beautiful photographs by Meghan’s wedding photographer, Macon Photography, andan amazing video created by The Girl Tyler which features Meghan’s non-traditional father-daughter dance: a karaoke version of Bohemian Rhapsody!